3 ways to self soothe on antisocial days
For any day when you’re feeling down and you absolutely, positively, don’t want to talk to anyone else, here are three things that you can do to boost your mood. They require little to no motivation and zero contact with the outside world.
Light a candle or burn some incense. This takes less than a minute to do and you'll enjoy the scent for long after. It creates a more enjoyable atmosphere and it’ll get you out of your mind and into reality for a minute. I was introduced to this by Gretchen Rubin through my IIN coursework and I’ve been using it to lift my spirits ever since.
Put on some music you like and doodle. I say “doodle” because that thoughtless flow of pen to paper is what you’re looking for. No end goal or ambition in this - just lose yourself for a bit in the sounds of the music and let your pen wander.
Self-massage. Need I say more? This is a trick that I picked up from my yoga practice: use your thumbs to massage the bottom of your feet. I was surprised by the release of tension that I felt the first time I did this. Our feet carry our weight and they rarely receive any love for it. Added benefit: if you have tight hamstrings, this might help loosen them up, as your feet are a part of the same kinetic chain. Another way that you can do this is by rolling your foot over a tennis ball on the floor.
Little acts like this add up over time. Anything you can do to help yourself feel better in the moment, that isn’t self-destructive, is 100% worth doing, no matter how simple it may seem. Indulge your sensuality. And know that it’s fine to relish in an antisocial day. There’s beauty in basking in your own being. Being comfortable by yourself translates into being comfortable in social situations, and into others being comfortable around you.